To have and to upload?

Social media is now interwoven into the fabric of our everyday lives.

Many momentous occasions are marked with a tweet and or status update to share the occasion.

status-update-box-mark-life-events-buttonsThe arrival of a new baby, a wedding proposal, a new job or a house move they are all played out in a global arena.

Freeman's-Journal-2In many ways social media has become the births, deaths and marriages page of a local newspaper.

Of course being a journo turned wedding blogger  I’ve given some thought to the latter.

The rise of the #wedding

And although you may be keen to capture the moment and embrace technology, like most things with weddings, there is now an etiquette for it!cartoon

According to Bridebook one in five couples surveyed used a bespoke wedding hashtag, an increase of 50% from the year before.

smith weddingAnd that’s an awful lot of hash tagging considering the average wedding last year saw a whopping 3,400 pictures taken.

And selfies were ever-popular too, with a staggering 76% of ‘twitter brides’ and ‘instagrooms’ taking a long-armed snap on their wedding day – the Wedding Selfie, or #Welfie.

A whopping 60% of brides revealed they used social media too on their wedding day last year with 15% updating their statuses. ‘#StatusUpdate – Cutting Cake’.

hashtagsWith all this online activity it’s not only the glasses being charged at a wedding.

And the most tech savvy couples are even providing phone charging stations (2%) ensuring that batteries don’t run out of juice before
the guests do.

But social media can also cause tensions with couples even considering ewedding social mediaeffectively putting an embargo on their wedding pictures on Facebook until after the evening guests have arrived.

Here’s some suggestions to consider before your big day:

  1. Decide as a couple on your stance on social media after the proposal. Timing is key. Even your grandma is on Facebook these days! Wouldn’t she appreciate hearing the news in person instead of a status update!
  2. Share key information from your wedding plans on social media.
  3. Don’t talk about how much your spending
  4. Be careful not to over flaunt your wedding to people that aren’t invited. Check your privacy settings. Does your boss really need to see your hen do pictures?
  5. Keep some things a surprise – Will the ukulele band playing your favourite tunes be something to keep back or sing about on Twitter?15b830a873b317970cde5428f6c8ddcc
  6. Send out traditional paper invitations for the main event. But emails are great for pre and post wedding updates or even Save The Dates!
  7. On the day decide as a couple how to approach social media. If you are wired up set up a hashtag etc  But you might want to tell your guests you want to keep the ceremony to yourself, family and close friends.
  8. If you are embracing it. Take some selfies! Capture your own moment at the time you please. Be sure to save the best parts of your day of unplugged to be in touch with everything and everybody around you.

Time for a tipple? It’s cocktail hour!

Whether it be traditional champagne toast or a relaxed Pimms on the lawn there is no doubt there is a vast choice of beverages for you and your guests to enjoy.champagne-583410_1920

But if you’ve got a blank canvas and are flying solo from a wedding planner then hiring a drinks provider is probably on your ‘to do list’.

YRbrides has asked industry expert Jonny Cocktail to give us for insight into the wedding beverage industry.

Q. How long has the business been going, where did the idea come from?

jonny cocktailJonny Cocktail Bars and Events have been running since 2004.

After many years bartending in resorts and cities around the world, we took to providing drink services in the comfort of people’s homes. This has now grown to a level where we offer bar and bartender hire, full bar services and event consultancy. Our events range from hen parties to bar mitzvahs and gala dinners to corporate functions.

Q.Have you noticed changes in the wedding industry in this time?

A.Our wedding services have become very popular over the last five years.  We’ve put this down to the affordability of our services and also clients desire to find different venues where a bar may not be a fixture.

Locations in 2015 alone saw us providing bar services in village halls, marquee’s, a yurt, barn and a warehouse.

We aim to provide high level bar services, whatever the location. We have an extensive range of bars at our disposal which all have high level volume in mind as well as looking great. We compliment these with excellent quality glassware, equipment and know how!cocktail new

Q.You mentioned affordability? How does this work in practise?

A. We can provide a free bar service your special day.

We look at how many people are coming and the length of the service and set a minimum spend. Once the couple hit that spend then they receive their deposit back. We always stock beer, wine, fizz, cocktails and soft drinks and anything else you may like.

Our prices are kept realistic and this helps the client achieve the minimum spend, we also get the satisfaction of our customers not having the prices of drinks they often get at hotel bars.


Q.What options can you offer couples and their guests?

A. We have a number of different options to work with depending on what the couple would like. Some like to provide the drinks and we bring the equipment, knowledge and flair! Or others may offer a subsidised bar enabling guests to have even lower prices to pay! 

We sit down the couple and tailor the drink offering to their requirements, making sure all tastes are covered their guests have plenty choice.

Q. Do you offer couple packages?

A.Nearly all our couples will have a drinks package of some sort included in their service. This ranges from Bellini’s and beers or arrival to the ever increasing cocktail hour!

Last year we did a number of cocktail hours as part of the service, we look to have this after the speeches or when the evening guest s arrive. It’s a great way to keep everyone entertained whilst the venue is set up for the evening. We have loads of different options and love working with our couple’s to find what is right for them.


Q.Can you give us an example of a couples’ wedding?

A. In July we had the pleasure of providing a bar service for a wedding in a marquee on the outskirts of Leeds. There were 90 guests for the day and on arrival they were greeted with passion fruit bellini’s, ice cold beers and non-alcoholic raspberry lemonade. The client had opted for our cash bar service which included their own cocktail menu they designed around holidays they have had together. The groom also had a keg of his favourite ale from Saltaire Brewery.

martini-548031_1280The marquee had an outside decking area and we set up an extra cocktail bar outside. The couple had provided each guest with a cocktail favour and after the speeches, they all came to the outside bar to enjoy these. There were another 70 guest for the evening and the party went on until the early hours.  



Valentine’s Day is the most popular day to get engaged!

More than a third of women have said they would like to be proposed to on Valentine’s day!

Yes, although some may say it’s a bit cheesy to get engaged on arguably the most romantic day of the year – it turns out  ladies like our significant others to be nothing but predictable when it comes to popping the question.www.brit_.co_

The survey carried out by Bridebook, the UK’s first free digital wedding planner,  77% of brides said they would have liked to have been proposed to on the most romantic day of the year. This was closely followed by Christmas Day (70%), a holiday abroad (61%) and New Year’s Eve (54%).

Whilst Valentine’s day is associated with romance, other romantic traditions were being broken.

For example, more than half of couples uploaded a selfie of their special moment ‘she said yes’ last year (55%), nearly the same amount as asked the father of the bride’s permission (56%) and one in three chose not to get down on one knee.

But before we all get swept away in the romance of Vday 2016, it would appear couples are delaying their actual wedding in order to get on the property ladder.

A different survey found almost three-quarters of couples living in the UK are choosing to postpone their wedding in order to get on the housing ladder first.

With average house prices reaching almost £200,000 in England and Wales and well over £500,000 in London, saving for a deposit and repaying a mortgage mean most couples have little or no spare income to save for a wedding.

A whopping 970 hours* to plan a wedding!

It’s no secret that planning a wedding is a time consuming business.

But latest research* shows that the average wedding in 2105 took 970 hours to plan – that’s eleven and a half

And what’s more, the average bride took ‘something borrowed’ to an extreme and used approximately 7 1/2 weeks of work time (300 hours) planning their wedding – better invite the boss!

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Brides admitted using office stationery, contacting suppliers over email, drawing up seating plans, searching online for inspiration and creating excel budgets as some of the ways they spent their working hours. 10% even admitted using the office postage system to send some of their invitations.

So with 270,000 weddings last year 81 million hours of work were lost to sneaky wedding planning.


It’s also not uncommon for brides to get planning right away to make sure they secure their perfect wedding, but it’s not all a three tiered dream.

The in-depth survey of over 5,000 brides reveals what the to-be-betrothed are really thinking.

The most stressful things about planning a wedding:

  1. 65% said they hated spreadsheets
  2. 64% said they stressed about going over budget (and one in five did go overbudget)wedding-budget-facebook
  3. 61% struggled to wade through advice
  4. 56% said they had disagreements over guest lists
  5. 53% said family interference frustrated them (one third of couples even triedto ban their parents for being involved in wedding planning)
  6. 21% felt let down by a supplier
  7. 18% felt overcharged by a supplier
  8. 15% said they felt pressure to ‘get it right’ from others
  1. *Research carried out by Bridebook, the UK’s first free digital wedding planner.

‘Babes in arms’ Should we take our baby to a wedding?

It’s arrived! Our first wedding invitation of 2016!
I’m so excited to have a wedding to look forward to. The forthcoming nuptials are my husband’s cousin and her partner. They will be held at a village church and at the family’s home in North Yorkshire on April 30.IMAG0504.jpg
The bride-to-be attended our own wedding in August 2014 (her fiance had a prior engagement) but when the exciting news of their engagement reached us at Christmas, I wasn’t entirely sure whether the hospitality would be reciprocated.
0c46503d56b3aa8565d13a62a45049bcCouples have more choice than ever when it comes to hosting their big day but the guest list is arguably one of the toughest decisions to be made.
So I’m delighted to be included and an added bonus is the location of the wedding is near enough to home for us to avoid an often costly overnight stay.
The opportunity to get dressed up is also a thrilling one, since our daughter arrived four months ago I’ve not even worn high heels let alone lipstick!
We are also fortunate that although children cannot be accommodated, ‘babes in arms’ are welcome.images (1)
I’m not sure our beloved daughter will be staying in our arms for the occasion, I’m tempted to draft in my parents to help out.
Weddings are a long day (even for the adults) and I’m not sure entirely compatible with a six month old baby.
I know, I know…this won’t be everyone’s opinion.

When we made the tough decision to not allow children to our own wedding I was of course on the otherside of all this.

I am now a breastfeeding mum so I can appreciate the situation for mum’s whose only option is to stay with child. They don’t want to miss out, and quite frankly why should they.

I guess in the interest of fairness no children means no children.

But I now see that infants are clearly in a different ball park.

My pre-parent-self had visions of a crying baby drowning out our vows and wailing during my dad’s speech. I just couldn’t shift it.

So I’m sorry to say we did have a no child and infant rule.images (2)

Maybe when she is older and she is excluded for a wedding and I have no childcare then I will be seething but for now I guess I have the best of both worlds.
We will see what happens about the April wedding. She will be well catered for in any event.
Either by doting grandparents or by more polished versions of her mummy and daddy than she has become acustomed.

The mother of all problems..

Feature Writer Hilarie Stelfox shares thoughts on what to wear to the great vegan affair- her son’s approaching nuptials.

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And with just a few weeks to go I’ve still got nothing to wear.
I knew this would happen.  But buying an outfit for a spring wedding in the middle of summer or depths of winter just didn’t seem like the right thing to do.
So I waited for the evening dresses to be cleared out, the sales to end, and then I waited some more.
Now, I’ve got to get my finger out.
Of course, I’m just the bridegroom’s mother.sonwed
 All eyes will be on the bride and groom.
What’s more,  I’ve always felt that the bride’s mother occupies a more visible and important role on the big day so hopefully I can get away without a hat or the sort of pastel-coloured dress and jacket combo that I think I’m too young to wear, even though I’m not.
I may treat myself to a fascinator but where will I get one?
And then I’ll need some shoes….a bag…new make-up.  Is a spray tan too much?  Should I have booked a slot with the bride’s hairdresser?
Am I starting to panic a bit?

My own wedding, 26 years ago, was a much lower key affair.   We booked the register office for the ceremony and a local Indonesian restaurant for the reception.  Only 20 people sat down to a banquet lunch.  We had a small party for everyone else at my house later the same day.  I wore a cream skirt suit that I bought from a now-defunct ladieswear establishment on Halifax Road in Huddersfield.
The skirt was shortened for work wear afterwards.  I don’t know what happened to the rest of the outfit.
It’s fair to say that very little preparation or thought went into the entire event.
Fast forward two decades and my son’s wedding is proving to be a much grander affair at Waterton Hall in Wakefield.
A full year of planning has gone into it so far.

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There have been cake tastings, hairdressing try-outs, dress fittings, bridesmaid gatherings, discussions over flowers, searches for table decorations, a professional pre-wedding photoshoot.  The only thing for the couple left to do is choose their disco music and first dance track.
Not that I’m complaining about any of this, it’s been lovely to share their excitement and pleasure.
And, having followed the trials, tribulations and triumphs of a colleague’s wedding preparations the year before, I knew exactly what to expect.
But there may be some surprises on the day, as this is not exactly a conventional wedding.
Yes, the bride is wearing a long, bouffant bridal dress and the men re all in morning suits, but it’s a vegan wedding. Guests have been warned that they can expect no meat, fish, dairy products or anything that once belonged to an animal.  We’ll be dining on butternut squash, quinoa and mushrooms.  The wedding cake has been specially sourced from a vegan baker who will use no eggs.  And all the wines served are going to be vegan as well.
But our desire to celebrate will be full-blooded, because it’s an occasion that, in time-honoured tradition, will mark the blending of two families.  Marriage is an ancient rite of passage – a ritual that should and will be enjoyed.
Now, when my second born announces she is getting married I will definitely begin the search for an outfit with PLENTY of time to spare.

Are you trying to beat the bulge before your big day?

Here’s our latest guest blog offering from Personal Trainer Matt Robinson.

Matt has helped hundreds of brides looking for some health & fitness help before their big day.

He started out helping a few brides on a 1-2-1 basis as part of his Huddersfield-based personal training business, and getting engaged himself, Matt decided to specialise in helping brides all over the world achieve what he likes to call, their  ‘Big Day Body’.

‘Big Day Body’ is the phrase Matt likes to use to describes a Bride’s own interpretation of how they want to look on their Wedding Day. After all, not every Bride want’s to be super-skinny size 6. Most just want to feel confident in their dress and feel confident in front of the camera so that they can have wonderful wedding photos to look back on in years to come that they can enjoy.

Today, Matt is going to share some basic tips you can use to shape your very own ‘Big Day Body’ and get started on the right foot, whether your Wedding is just around the corner, or many months away.

Let’s take the plunge…

1. Get Clear On What You Want

The first thing I advise all brides to do is get very clear on how they want to look and feel on their Wedding Day.

What would make you feel at your best?

What would make you feel confident?

Is there a certain dress size you would like to be?

Are there certain areas you specifically want to see changes in?

What are you expecting in terms of results?

You need a clear direction to be heading in and some goals to be working towards, otherwise you can become quickly disappointed and disillusioned when you feel like you aren’t getting anywhere but don’t really have anything to compare your progress to.

2. Take Your Time

Your aim shouldn’t be to lose as much weight as possible as quickly as you can. Instead, you should focus on becoming healthier overall and achieving weight loss (if that’s your goal) as a side effect of that. We want your results to last a lifetime, not just for the few weeks of your Wedding and Honeymoon.images (1)

Many Brides look to start a family after getting married so what better way to prepare your body for motherhood than to work on becoming as healthy as possible in the run-up to your Wedding Day?

3. Make Use Of Mini-Deadlines

We might not like deadlines, but the truth is, they work!0c46503d56b3aa8565d13a62a45049bc

Deadlines force us to take action, stop procrastinating and get results. And as a Bride-to-be there are naturally a few deadlines along the way to your special day that you can use in your favour such as wedding dress shopping, wedding dress fittings, and your hen party.

These are all occasions that the Brides I have worked with want to feel great for so why not map them out as part of your journey and set min-goals along the way to try and achieve by each of those individual dates?

I guarantee it will help keep you on track and focused on the important things.

4. Life Get’s In The Way…And That’s Ok!

You WILL face struggles along the way as you aim to get in shape for your Wedding Day. So you need to just accept that from the get-go.

There will be times of stress, things that get in your way, times where you want to give up, and definitely the odd slip-up here and there!

Don’t get caught up with these things. Accept them, get back on track, and move on.

One slip-up doesn’t make you a failure, just the same as one day of being good doesn’t make you a huge success. The aim to maintain a decent level of consistency over a period of time. Minor slips along the way are ok, to be expected, and perfectly ok in terms of still getting great results!

5. Eat Natural, Stay Active & Sleep Well!

In terms of exercise and diet, keep things simple.

Aim to eat natural foods 90% of the time and avoid processed, high-sugar, chemical-laden foods that your body simply doesn’t know how to handle. Eat lots of good quality protein (fish, eggs, poultry, meat, offal, nuts), top up your healthy fats eacAvocado-Scoop-Masher-CC1989_01h day (avocado, olives, natural oils, nuts, seeds) and stick to natural sources of carbohydrate (fruit, vegetables, rice). It’s also ideal to avoid wheat and gluten if you tend to suffer from bloating regularly.

Exercise-wise, it doesn’t matter too much about what you do as long as you do it regularly and consistently. Yes, if you want specific results with certain areas of your body, like the Brides I work with, then you will need a more specific approach. However, on the whole you can get good results simply by being active each day and eating sensibly.

The final thing on this point is to sleep well. As you increase your activity levels, on top of everything else you already do, you need to make sure your body gets chance to recover properly, otherwise you won’t feel able to sustain the extra activity each week. Aim for 6-8 hours of good quality sleep each night and this will massively help you with energy levels, mood, stress levels, and believe it or not….weight loss!

To check out Matt’s online program for brides click here.

To sell or not to sell..could you part with your post-wedding gown?

YRbrides Guest blogger Hazel shares her thoughts on a crucial post wedding decision…

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So, it’s been a whirlwind four months since I tied the knot with my hubby, Chris.

The honeymoon has been enjoyed, the thank you cards dispatched, and the lovely

presents displayed in the house.

But now I’m left with the most important question of all.

‘What do I do with my wedding dress?’

My beautiful gown was most important to me and formed a special part of of our big day.

In fact it was an accidental buy!

I came across it whilst shopping with my bridesmaid Catriona. We just went for a little nosy around the shops.

We visited Donna at Precious Bridal in Garforth, Leeds and I tried on about 12 dresses in all.

I hadn’t really found something that made me say ‘yes, that’s the one’ until Donna asked me how I felt about trying on a display gown.

As we all know, weddings are a very expensive day, and not being shy of a bargain or two, I happily agreed.

Donna brought out the most beautiful gown, with corset back, sweetheart bust filled with silver crystals, and I was immediately in love!

I tried it on, and it was perfect!

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So I have had my happily ever after, the wedding day went perfectly, and I felt like an

absolute princess in my dress, but I can’t help but feel bad!

I feel sad, that my beautiful gown now lays in our spare bedroom, collecting dust. I have yet to have it dry cleaned, half because of lack of time, and half because of the extortionate price!

To sell or not to sell…

After speaking to a few other newly married ladies on a wedding dress selling page,

they have all had great difficulty selling their dress. A lot of people believe that it is

bad luck to wear someone else’s dress.

We also discussed the fact that people who do decide to go for a used dress, also don’t want to pay a lot for one and will offer crazy prices.

One lady told me someone came to try on her dress which she advertised for £300, and was offered £40 for it.

The dress cost nearly £1,200 and was already dry-cleaned in perfect condition!


I work within the Catholic community, and traditionally a wedding dress would be

saved and turned into a babies Baptism gown, but as someone with fertility

problems, I don’t want to jinx that!

I have however, saved my veil, tiara and jewellery for hopefully my daughter, daughter in law, or step daughter if the first two are not meant to be.

My wish is that one day my dress will make someone feel as beautiful as I did.

But until that day my gown will stay hung up, unwashed, in my spare room, collecting dust.

To see Hazel and Chris’ real wedding feature click here.

What have you done or plan to do with your wedding dress?

Welcome to the beginning of something magical…with Bijou Bridal

Bridal boutique owner Kerensa Dyson tells Yorkshire Rose Brides’ Louise Lavigueur how a search for her own wedding dress was the start of an entirely different kind of love affair in the heart of Yorkshire’s Holme Valley.

By her own admission Kerensa was ‘like a child in a sweet shop’ as the finishibijou-01_thumbng touches fell into place for her bridal boutique.

After securing a prominent Grade II listed building in Holmfirth she set to work hand picking designers creations and stunning accessories.

“I was fortunate in that I only ever experienced fantastic service in all the bridal shops I visited when I was searching for my own wedding dress,” said Kerensa.

So I wanted to emulate that experience by creating my own boutique which is ‘both small and elegant’ – essentially Bijou!

“Bijou Bridal Boutique is unique because as well as offering first class customer service to the bride and her guests, it also only stocks British designed wedding gowns which are all made in exceptional quality fabrics including silk.11136615_790707060984537_8021081910399197631_n
“By championing British designed wedding gowns such as Madeline Isaac-James and Ivory & Co. Bridal Couture we are offering the bride a truly exceptional experience within the boutique to find the gown of her dreams.”
“At the moment the trend is definitely for a 1950s or  or tea length wedding gown!
Both of my designers have introduced these styles to their collections and they are so popular at the moment.
 “In fact I would say they are the best sellers.
“Together with an exquisite range of British made accessories including shoes by Rainbow Club, handmade veils by Richard Designs and hand crafted tiaras and headdresses by Polly Edwards, you are sure to find your perfect Bridal Trousseau.
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“For me personally, I love a princess style wedding gown and I have some simply stunning styles in the boutique for brides to choose from.
“Brides who come to Bijou Bridal Boutique can enjoy the whole experience in a truly feminine and contemporary styled space.”

Bijou Bridal’s top three tips…

1.   Even though you might have a particular style in mind, be open to suggestions as the dresses look totally different on you than on the hanger!
2.   Keep your appointment small and only bring along 1 or 2 people initially.  Too many opinions can be very distracting and at the end of the day, it is what you love not what your friends love!
3.   Relax and enjoy the experience.
For more from Bijou Bridal check out the featured suppliers page.

Unwrap the secret world of wedding gifts..

Whilst many traditions still have a place in a wedding planning…perhaps a somewhat out-dated one is the concept of wedding presents.
The purpose, of course, was once to help the happy couple set up their home together with all mod-cons including kettle, Nothing-I-mean-nothing-beats-toaster-wedding-giftdownloadtoaster and let’s not forget china patterns and that all important gravy boat.

But clearly the rise in couples co-habiting pre-nuptials has put an end to that one which begs the question:  Should we have a wedding list?

So what are the options….
Hit the shops…
Major High Street department stores all offer Wedding List or Gift List services.
Many now have dedicated in-store departments and are happy to talk you through the process (and see the £ signs knotch up on their spreadsheets!)
Couples can choose items they like and most feature an online log in for guests to be able to select items at their leisure.
There is usually an option to add gift vouchers to the list in a range of values to give all guests the option to mix and match.
Show me the money!
It’s no secret that weddings are a costly affair and there appears to be a general shift in tradition that asking for money or
donations is now socially acceptable.
An appropriate, ‘if you would like to make a contribution to our…honeymoon, new house etc seems to be the norm.
Honeymoon fund (via a holiday provider)
Virtually all major travel companies are geared up in some way shape or form to the honeymoon market.honeymoon
Like most wedding things they are a big pull to bring clients to the company and sometimes offer flexibility to part pay or pay for a certain element of the trip ie. swimming with dolphins..a candle lit meal on the beach
Be warned there are also strict criteria which come with booking in this way and small print, like any pre-wedding contract, should be carefully considered.
Charity donation
For some couples the idea of benefiting financially from their special day does not appeal and they prefer to opt for a more wholesome approach.
A charity close to the couples hearts can be really uplifting. I know at least three couple who have taken this route and its staggering to hear the sums reached. Generosity and wedding go hand in hand.
Alternatively if you do go down the ‘High Street’ gift list option there are usually a number of charities via the gift list but there won’t be as much choice as if you choose a charity yourselves.
Don’t have a list!
If you have everything you could possibly want then tell guests this…but in my opinion you could end up with cupboards filled with wine glasses and photo frames you’ll never see for the next 20 years.
It could be a mixed bag. And only you will know what your guests will come up with.
Let’s just hope you don’t end up with any of the ’10 worst wedding presents’, (in no particular order) I’ve hand selected (no polls this times) of which I have posted below, just for fun.

 1.A knife with your name on it. (Very easy to frame you for future murders.)

2. Crystal anything if you didn’t specifically ask for crystal anything.

3. An avocado scooper. Mellon baller….  How? Why? No.


4. Any form of exercise equipment, including that new vibrating thighmaster thing that does absolutely nothing but gives you a sub par orgasm.

5.Lingerie. Appropriate from friend at a wedding shower/bachelorette party. Not appropriate to open from your grandmother on your wedding night.

6. Sex toys. Especially the expensive ones.

7. A gym membership for two.

8. A wok. (Everyone already has one. If they don’t, they’re never going to actually use it. Trust.) (Same with slow-cookers.)

9. A sundial. Because we don’t know when it’s sunny in Yorkshire we need a slate slab to tell us.N1384slate

10. A book about having babies. Or a box of baby goods. Some people are not yet ready to procreate (and might never be), but this is something that people may have given in the past. I may know at least one person who received a kit of baby stuff for her wedding.